I was talking to my brother about women’s attitudes towards their bodies, especially regarding weight/fat, and when he said “most guys don’t notice/care about that kind of thing,” I tried to explain why it was a lot more complicated than that. I ended up telling this story.
Body image is something that’s so hard to talk about, and it’s hard to express body positivity without sounding cheesy, false, or overly simplistic. But I’m gonna try. This is only my own experience, and it didn’t magically cure me of all my body image issues - but it was a major turning point for me nonetheless.
I really hate when men say that “most guys don’t notice/care about that kind of thing.” It’s a fucking lie. They do care. They do notice. They participate in the constraints on women’s bodies to conform to heteronormative white thin beauty ideals. Saying they don’t notice that stuff is ignorant of the fact that when they say that it only applies to a very select few body types and doesn’t apply to the vast majority of women.
That statement also shifts blame on people for reacting to a society where their bodies are on constant assault. Pretending men don’t participate in perpetuating that system is just plain ignorance.